More gf trouble.

poopgod350 · Jun 30, 2009

More gf trouble.

I know i said i was leaving but you guys helped me think things through before and i need it now. My gf told me (this is the same one i broke up with, if you remember. We got back together.) that if she did what she wanted she would be promiscuous, as in sleep around a lot, but she did not break up with me. I am confused and you guys helped me think last time so i come crawling back. If anyone has any advice please give it. My head hurts from the thinking and my heart hurts from the brick that she just threw on me.

(p.s. to anyone who says "a gaming forum isn't the best place for dating advice" i know this. These people have become my friends though and they helped a lot last time.)

jsnow · Jun 30, 2009

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Every one and every relationship is different, so i dont think anyone else can come up a perfect answer for you and yours but i will say that if you love and respect a person then you wont want to hurt them by sleeping with other people, no matter how strong your desire to do so.

jwc2200 · Jun 30, 2009

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Welcome back, Stephen right?
Sorry to hear you have troubles with your girl. Did she say she definitely planned to sleep around, or she just wants to? The way you worded it I'm not sure.
Hopefully she is saying she wants to, but isn't going to, since she didn't break up with you. If she is just thinking about it, try to discourage her with love, if you love her. Tell her that you are faithful to her and hope to get the same respect from her. Also, do your best to keep sex fun and creative between the two of you so she doesn't get bored and feel the need to 'see' others. Don't be afraid to ask her what she wants out of your physical relationship. You want to be careful with suggestions though. Get her to communicate her desires, she may surprise you with the things she wants. If you are mature enough to be involved physically, you need to be mature enough to discuss it openly. Tell her that if she gets shy when you try to ask her.
That has worked for me for a long time, I hope it works for you.
Glad to see you back.
Good luck.
Jason

poopgod350 · Jun 30, 2009

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Thanks Jason and you remembered my name! She just said that she wanted to. Not that she will.
And right now she is a part of my life i don't think i could bear to lose again. I would be depressed for a looong time if she left me.

jwc2200 · Jun 30, 2009

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I would think that since she told you she wants to, she may be letting you know she wants more from your sex lives. She seems to be trying to open the lines of communication on the subject, pick up that ball and run with it, find out what she thinks is lacking and make it better.

poopgod350 · Jun 30, 2009

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Well the problem is that she is grounded and we can't really do much together today is the first time e have seem each other since school let out because she has been grounded. Then again the comment wasn't really out of the blue it just caught me off guard. She asked me if she should ask her father if he would sell me one of his bikes so that i could go riding with her and i told her to do whatever she wanted and she said i wouldn't like what she wanted to do but i urged her on and that was the response. I know she loves me. She has told me several times that i am her world (she told me that today actually) and then she hits me with this. Ok so it was a little out of the blue.

jwc2200 · Jun 30, 2009

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Since you told her to do whatever she wanted, she may have felt you meant you didn't care enough. She may not even mean what she said, maybe she was just trying to get a rise out of you, to be sure you care about what she does. It could be that the way you said it, as well as what you said, came out wrong to her. You may have been casual in your statement, but she heard indifference instead of casualness. Unfortunately things sound different to the people we are talking to than how we mean them sometimes. It is worse with someone who is insecure, and she may be that since you have broken up with her before. Hopefully, given time, you two will become more confident in your relationship and that kind of thing won't happen as often.
I still think that when you get time together again you should feel her out, (not up,lol) to see if you can make things better physically.

poopgod350 · Jun 30, 2009

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Ok thank you for you advice Jason it is the most sense i have heard all night. WoW is not a good place for dating advice XD. Perhaps, she did just take what i said and heard it wrong. I don't know i am going to talk with her tomorrow about it though now that i have thought long and hard about it and received input from someone with more life expieriance.

Thank you

It is also more valuable to me coming from a fellow Texan.

ScareCrowReturn · Jun 30, 2009

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Well, If shes NOT the type of Girl to "Sleep" around then shes just making you Jealous and Angry and maybe want her back? Or do something special for her? BUT If she DOES Sleep around, Then DEFFINETLY Drop kick her outta here..

Seriously, I hate Dis-Loyal, Untrustworthy, Cheating Pricks. They're the worst, Nowadays it can be tough to get alot of trust with someone if you had past experience where something went terribly wrong.

My point of view for your situation is this. IF she has upset you now, She will Make you upset again and again, Your heart doesnt want to believe that, but you have to listen to the Logics when it comes to people like this. Yes, she may of been a really nice caring person at the start.. But there are alot more people, There is more then 1 person for everyone.

Just keep your hopes up, but in the end, Its your decision.

Goodluck mate.

poopgod350 · Jun 30, 2009

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Thanks and i agree if she ever does anything with anyone else that is an automatic break-up no chance of getting back together no matter how bad i might want it to be otherwise. BUT i don't think she is the type of person who would cheat but ATM i think she is capable of anything. I just don't really understand hat made her say that.

ScareCrowReturn · Jun 30, 2009

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^ Well my friend.. i thought the same way about my EX GirlFriend, Hence the EX part. I thought she liked me alot, She DID, I thought she was Happy with me, SHE WAS. But no, She gets drunk and GOes with another dude. To be honest, Not Boasting myself or insuting her but.. She was Ugly, She was a "nerd", she wasen't a very well known person. NOT saying that if you are that you dont deserve anyone, Im deffinetly not sayng that, its just the things that she said to me made me believe her. But no, She ****ed it up. And you know what? Im Glad! Because Right now im with the best Girl i've EVER met! Shes so Wonderful!

So my made up quote for you is that..

"Every bad thing leads to something better." - Adam. (Me)

If you dont trust her.. Try earn it, If you want, You're going to have to let her go, Sorry man.

jwc2200 · Jun 30, 2009

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poopgod350;314008 said:
someone with more life expieriance.

In the most politically correct way possible, I have been called OLD, lol.

Hexen_Harlot · Jun 30, 2009

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Make a deal. You two don't see each other for two weeks or so, and she's free to sleep around in that time (although preferably not ANYTHING with her (male) best friend... jesus, it took me a while ot sort that one out.)
If she's that into you, she probably won't sleep with anyone. This whole thing kind of happened to me before, my boyfriend cheated on me, we took a break. And dude, I ended up alone with this gorgeous German male model, alone, ****ed as a newt, with him asking me back to his for the night. You know what we did?

Bugger all, because I kept thinking of my boyfriend. That#'s generally how girls work. Give her the chance, and she'll realise she doesn;t want it that bad after all. We're fickle like that ^^

Good luck!

seress · Jun 30, 2009

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poopgod350;313995 said:
I know i said i was leaving but you guys helped me think things through before and i need it now. My gf told me (this is the same one i broke up with, if you remember. We got back together.) that if she did what she wanted she would be promiscuous, as in sleep around a lot, but she did not break up with me. I am confused and you guys helped me think last time so i come crawling back. If anyone has any advice please give it. My head hurts from the thinking and my heart hurts from the brick that she just threw on me.

I wonder what would happen if I said the same thing to my love. Instant breakup I guess. :lol:

poopgod350 · Jul 1, 2009

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Well we talked it out as Jason suggested and found the answer. (I of course won't go into details) Thanks Jason you helped a lot.

jwc2200 · Jul 1, 2009

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I'm glad to hear you worked it out, and that I helped some. I hope things continue to go for you both.

Xeon · Jul 1, 2009

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Girls like drama, how did you break up with her, what happened while you were apart, how did you get back together?

Cobalt Gamer · Jul 1, 2009

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poopgod350;314352 said:
Well we talked it out as Jason suggested and found the answer. (I of course won't go into details) Thanks Jason you helped a lot.

Congratz man! You just gotta keep your eyes open though, my ex was really close to her friend but swore blind to me that there was nothing going on between them, 5 months down the line i find out she's been sleeping with him. Sucks.

poopgod350 · Jul 2, 2009

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Well the reason we broke up before was all my fault. I was addicted to ADD pills and getting off of them was hell. I broke up with her because i didn't want to "snap" in front of her and do something stupid. While we were i was depressed for a while. One thing that bugs me is that she got over me and got a new bf in like 2 weeks. Then one friday i was thinking about her and out of the blue (it was about midnight) she called me. We talked all weekend over the phone and got back together.

Lore · Jul 3, 2009

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Girls usually keep alot to themselves. They won't tell a guy that sort of stuff normally, they would just do it. It sounds like she has already been sleeping with someone else my friend. She just said that to sting you and to give you the whole fear of loss thing. But believe me, she IS definately up to something. If she hasn't done it yet she is on the verge of doing it.

Believe me I know, it hurts but most girls are dirt. Especially the ex's that you get back together with. They always seem to get worse but they never show it at first.

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