Long Distance Relationships?

[Cobalt Gamer]

Long Distance Relationships?

Ok, lets say you fall in love with some-one and only get to see them once a week and it's practicaly killin you during the wek, what do you do?

 

[droded]

Re: Long Distance Relationships?

Stay with her, but try and see her more if you can.

I can't believe you would even leave a decision like that to a bunch of people on a forum, let alone contemplate it in the first place.

 

[Dark Drakan]

Re: Long Distance Relationships?

Im with Droded on this one, they can work just takes more patience and planning. If you respect her and the relationship you would be trying your hardest to make it work.

 

[Cobalt Gamer]

Re: Long Distance Relationships?

Stay with her, but try and see her more if you can.

I can't believe you would even leave a decision like that to a bunch of people on a forum, let alone contemplate it in the first place.

huh, know i was just seeing what you guys would do in my position, im 3 quarters of the way to killing myself atm, if i can reach the knife at the edge of the bed im there.

P.S. i am doing everything i can to make the relationship work, but we're seeing each other less and less, and for example i was suposed to be seeing her sturday, planned it all week, one word from her parents and shes going to a freinds party, and so for the next month im not gonna see her, life really does suck and no matter what it's never gonna change, i'm always gonna feel like ****. I'm always just gonna be sad, i should do one of two things imo, chalk this us as a failed relationship and go see if becci still likes me, or kill myself. i like the latter because i cba with life anymore.

 

[Arseface]

Re: Long Distance Relationships?

Killing yourself over chicks is stupid. Kill yourself over something worth while, like irregularities in the pension fund (Will anyone get that reference?)

Stick with it if you want to be with her, try to see her more. Basically what Droded and Drakan said. See if you can go with her to her friends party.

 

[cheezMcNASTY]

Re: Long Distance Relationships?

you always think "something good is gonna happen in the end" but in reality statistics and experience show that it never works out. The smart yet uncommon think to do is break up with her face to face.

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Stay with her, but try and see her more if you can.

I can't believe you would even leave a decision like that to a bunch of people on a forum, let alone contemplate it in the first place.

wait dude, this isn't hypothetical??? don't take my advice...it's still worth sticking it out in retrospect be that the case. don't listen to anything I or anyone else here has to say!

 

[Firis]

Re: Long Distance Relationships?

Let it work... Dont kill yourself, how is killing yourself gonna end your problems? If your really that ****ed then find a way to see her more often (even if it has to go against your or her parents will.) or you can go on your average "bring a rifle to a watchtower and snipe random passerbyes" solution, but that usually backfires.

 

[cheezMcNASTY]

Re: Long Distance Relationships?

Even if that's your personal experience, that's not what statistics show.

Statistics show that long distance relationships have roughly the same chance of working as any other relationship. Statistics also show a positive correlation between amount of contact and successful long distance relationships, meaning that the more the two people in the couple communicate, through letters, e-mails, phone conversations, visits, anything, the better chance the couple have of staying together (unless it goes too far; don't call her every five minutes, that gets annoying).

The only difference when it comes to ending a long distance relationship is that it is much easier to blame the distance between the two people than it is to pin the actual fault in the relationship. No one is going to say "Well, it's really because I just don't like you anymore, and my new secretary is HOT" instead of "We never see each other, we're so far apart, blahblahblah". This convenience isn't found in a typical relationship, so it is made specific to long distance relationships, which is why when people think about it, most would say that it never works, because many think about why most of these unsuccessful long distance relationships end (or rather, what people who have had long distance relationships say caused the breakup).

The only thing you'll miss out on is sex, unless you have an incredibly long extremity (yes, I made a penor reference, get over it). That and seeing him/her as often as you do, not to mention the physical conduct. But all of this makes for some really fine welcome back events, so be optimistic.Not so uncommon, actually. Since we're talking about statistics, the majority of couples separate before the would-have-been long distance relationship has a chance to even happen. The logic (excuse) being that "it wouldn't work", when really it's most often because one or both of the parties involved would rather not wait for their honey to get back to get their freak on.

Long distance relations can work, if both people involved put some effort into it, just as would be in a typical relationship.

whoa now take it easy...i said he should see it through.