Minor question.
So, my ex-best friend and former crush has been talking to me slightly on occasion, for almost a year we never talked or even smiled at each other, even though we had the same group of friends, except once or twice since then in which we had a little scuffle.
Now in the past month we have texted a few times and exchanged a friendly goodbye, one along the lines of the way we used to, with her cutesy attitude and my uncontrollable smile I always get when I find something amusing. She texted me at my cousin's graduation party, initiating the conversation with an excuse of "texting random people" and we exchanged 10 - 15 messages each and then it died off, the next morning she texted me and we exchanged 3 or 4 texts then stopped. Three days later I initiated the text to see if she was just in a certain mood that day, she answered and we exchanged 5 - 10 messages before we stopped, then we didn't text or talk for over two weeks, then this Wednesday at church we did the goodbye thing, and she seemed happy enough and she didn't treat me like the "Bi-polar creeper" she did during the falling out. That was three days ago, no messages since.
Now my personal note: While I do still experience feelings when I see her they are more along the lines of her physical beauty that any normal man would get, and a anxiety due to past circumstances. Basically, I don't think I still have a crush on her, that said I am a very clingy person.
Question: Having been off and on talking for the past month, with a slow uprising in interaction and no romantic feelings, I am wondering if I should add her as a friend on Facebook, a simple gesture of friendship, no pleading, just an casual invite... My problem is that if she doesn't want to be friends for whatever reason, or she adds me and sees something on my profile that sets her off, then that spirals her back to disliking me and a slight tension in social situations that she is involved in (40 - 60%) but if she does want to be friends and is fine with the way I am now (An improvement since we last talked) then I gain a friend back.
Thoughts? What should I do?
So, my ex-best friend and former crush has been talking to me slightly on occasion, for almost a year we never talked or even smiled at each other, even though we had the same group of friends, except once or twice since then in which we had a little scuffle.
Now in the past month we have texted a few times and exchanged a friendly goodbye, one along the lines of the way we used to, with her cutesy attitude and my uncontrollable smile I always get when I find something amusing. She texted me at my cousin's graduation party, initiating the conversation with an excuse of "texting random people" and we exchanged 10 - 15 messages each and then it died off, the next morning she texted me and we exchanged 3 or 4 texts then stopped. Three days later I initiated the text to see if she was just in a certain mood that day, she answered and we exchanged 5 - 10 messages before we stopped, then we didn't text or talk for over two weeks, then this Wednesday at church we did the goodbye thing, and she seemed happy enough and she didn't treat me like the "Bi-polar creeper" she did during the falling out. That was three days ago, no messages since.
Now my personal note: While I do still experience feelings when I see her they are more along the lines of her physical beauty that any normal man would get, and a anxiety due to past circumstances. Basically, I don't think I still have a crush on her, that said I am a very clingy person.
Question: Having been off and on talking for the past month, with a slow uprising in interaction and no romantic feelings, I am wondering if I should add her as a friend on Facebook, a simple gesture of friendship, no pleading, just an casual invite... My problem is that if she doesn't want to be friends for whatever reason, or she adds me and sees something on my profile that sets her off, then that spirals her back to disliking me and a slight tension in social situations that she is involved in (40 - 60%) but if she does want to be friends and is fine with the way I am now (An improvement since we last talked) then I gain a friend back.
Thoughts? What should I do?
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