Might be a long read, sorry, if you're not interested in my personal life then I am cool with that, I don't assume any of you would, but if you wish to share advice then it is welcomed, whether it is what I wish to hear or not.
Alright, so I have a friend named Evan, to give background, me and him have been friends for about twelve years, indeed he is one of the few friends I had before my teenage years began. Me and him have had a fairly stable friendship, talked on the phone for several hours a week and played games together, saw each other about twice a month to hang out, had similar interests and sense of humor, similar views. For about six years he was one of my few friends, in the past five years I have socially bloomed to a wider group of friends, but I am still to this day one of his few true friends, other than me he has maybe two people he likes to hang out with that are over the age of fourteen, and he prefers me over them. Due to recent (Past couple of years) circumstances I have contemplated breaking off our friendship, these reasons vary from petty to semi-serious. I have compiled a short list of why I still hang out with him and why I think I should break off our friendship.
Why I still hang out with him: He is fun, fairly humorous, his family is fairly nice, and I feel obligated to hang out with him because he has often been there for me.
Why I want to stop: Politically we differ; he seems pro-autocracy, religiously we differ; he is a closed minded baptist, he hates homosexuals and I think he may dislike blacks; I am a closet bisexual, he is misanthropic, he and his family put him on a intellectual high-horse because he is extremely good at math (Calculus in Junior year) yet he fails elsewhere (He is illogical, doesn't have much common sense, is illiterate and believes psuedo-sciences) he says he can see angels and demons, and his family fully supports him on this, on top of his unprovable religious hypotheses he believes the moon landing is fake and that we never found organisms or water anywhere other than Earth, he is corrupting me I think, he can be insulting, he is very needy and whines when I don't play with him or when I choose another friend or event over him. I have tried to ignore these things, and I have also tried to help him get over them, neither works.
As you can see the reasons for < against. So what makes me hesitate? Guilt alone makes me hesitate, my anger at him overwhelms the happiness. We have been friends for so long, he has helped me through many tough times, I am one of his few friends.
So should I dump him or try to push through this doomed relationship?
If I dump him, should I do it before or after his birthday party in two weeks? Should I tell him and try to explain to him and then break it off, or should I simply send him a written message (Which he will need someone else to read for him) and then delete him from my friends lists on everything?
Any advice or info would be hot.
Alright, so I have a friend named Evan, to give background, me and him have been friends for about twelve years, indeed he is one of the few friends I had before my teenage years began. Me and him have had a fairly stable friendship, talked on the phone for several hours a week and played games together, saw each other about twice a month to hang out, had similar interests and sense of humor, similar views. For about six years he was one of my few friends, in the past five years I have socially bloomed to a wider group of friends, but I am still to this day one of his few true friends, other than me he has maybe two people he likes to hang out with that are over the age of fourteen, and he prefers me over them. Due to recent (Past couple of years) circumstances I have contemplated breaking off our friendship, these reasons vary from petty to semi-serious. I have compiled a short list of why I still hang out with him and why I think I should break off our friendship.
Why I still hang out with him: He is fun, fairly humorous, his family is fairly nice, and I feel obligated to hang out with him because he has often been there for me.
Why I want to stop: Politically we differ; he seems pro-autocracy, religiously we differ; he is a closed minded baptist, he hates homosexuals and I think he may dislike blacks; I am a closet bisexual, he is misanthropic, he and his family put him on a intellectual high-horse because he is extremely good at math (Calculus in Junior year) yet he fails elsewhere (He is illogical, doesn't have much common sense, is illiterate and believes psuedo-sciences) he says he can see angels and demons, and his family fully supports him on this, on top of his unprovable religious hypotheses he believes the moon landing is fake and that we never found organisms or water anywhere other than Earth, he is corrupting me I think, he can be insulting, he is very needy and whines when I don't play with him or when I choose another friend or event over him. I have tried to ignore these things, and I have also tried to help him get over them, neither works.
As you can see the reasons for < against. So what makes me hesitate? Guilt alone makes me hesitate, my anger at him overwhelms the happiness. We have been friends for so long, he has helped me through many tough times, I am one of his few friends.
So should I dump him or try to push through this doomed relationship?
If I dump him, should I do it before or after his birthday party in two weeks? Should I tell him and try to explain to him and then break it off, or should I simply send him a written message (Which he will need someone else to read for him) and then delete him from my friends lists on everything?
Any advice or info would be hot.
