Girl Advice Okay, so there’s this girl, Amanda. She’s everything to me. I’ve had a lot of different girlfriends (not to brag, but compare), and none of them have made me feel anything close to what Amanda does. I’ve been in love with her for over two years now. I think I should clear something up though—she’s not my girlfriend. Here’s what happened: I fell in love with her almost immediately after we met, but I never confessed my attraction to her. I wasn’t reading her signals correctly... so at the time, I thought she didn’t like me. There was another girl, Alexis. She came around the same time Amanda did, and she was flirting with me a lot. My attraction for her was steadily increasing as the days went by, and when she finally began telling me how she was falling for me, I jumped hastily into a relationship. The feeling of being loved by someone was intoxicating. Though, as long as I was with her, my heart felt empty. I was still in love with Amanda, but I couldn’t admit that to Alexis. As soon as Alexis and I got together, Amanda seemed upset, and it showed whenever I was around her. She was my best friend at the time, and she wouldn’t tell me what was wrong, so I was confused and worried. I told Alexis that I wanted to end the relationship, but she made me feel guilty and said that I was the only guy to understand her, and she even went as far as saying she would kill herself if she lost me. I made the idiotic decision to stay with her a while longer, and in doing so, lost Amanda to guy named Tyler, another longtime friend of hers. Later on, Amanda finally revealed her true feelings for me, and it blew me away. Apparently I had been reading her wrong the whole time and she was falling for me too. I told Amanda how I felt and she was as equally surprised as I was. For a long time we had deep, emotional conversations, and she seemed torn between me and Tyler. She would tell me all the time that if I had chosen her instead of Alexis, that we could be together. It has been over a year since and she’s still with him. I haven’t moved on. She will always be the girl I love. Several other girls have tried to be with me, yet I’ve stayed adamantly in love with her. She tells me that she’s happy now, but there have been a lot of times when we talk about the past, and it seems like she wishes things were different. I tell her how much I still love her and how we could have been married with kids and had an amazing life. She gets a sad look on her face and on occasion she has said that she wants that with me too, and it gave me hope for a while, but lately she’s saying less and less, and instead only frowning when it gets brought up. I don’t know what to do anymore, the more I fight for her, the more it hurts both of us, but I can’t just let her go... I need help. I’m usually the one giving advice and never taking it, but right now I need it more than ever.