Coming Up With A Creepy Topic Title: Cradle Robbing

[Walker]

Coming Up With A Creepy Topic Title: Cradle Robbing

Don't ask why I was musing on the topic, but here it is:

When you're still fairly young, how creepy is a two-year age gap in the sense of "having a relationship?" I mean, college sophomore and high school senior; or college junior and freshman. I just can't tell.

 

[Noctus]

Re: Coming Up With A Creepy Topic Title: Cradle Robbing

Kinda creepy but who gives a damn?

 

[Psychosis]

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Well, I'm 17 and my girlfriend is 14. She's 15 next month. We don't consider the age gap a problem at all, neither do our parents. We think about it like this: In five years she will be 19 going on 20 and I will be 22. That's nothing at all. Do you mind if I ask whether you're in a similar situation?

 

[Noctus]

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^Yeah exactly, the later you get in life the less the gap will mean.

 

[Psychosis]

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That is exactly it. I mean, you get couples with age gaps of 10 or more years, that's not considered wrong at all.

 

[Angel]

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I think it comes down to two things - maturity and the law. Obviously, if you are 20 and dating a 10 year old then you need to consider getting some sort of help because you are clearly sick in the head. But if you are 30 and your other half is 20, then that's a whole different ball game. There was a difference of 8 years between me and my daughter's father (he was 25 and I was 17 when we met) and there are 4 years between Steve and I (he's 23 and I'm 27). Where the age gap doesn't lean towards paedophilia, you have to take into consideration the emotional maturity of the person you are dating - and that can go in either direction. Someone older than you can be far more immature than you are, just like a younger partner can.

 

[Tsuyu]

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It really depends on the level range, as stated. If you're 20 and the gal is 10, then it is all kinds of wrong. But a 30 years old woman dating a 40 years old man is perfectly normal. The reason is this; you shouldn't have any sexual attraction to non-sexually active individuals. Once you hit the later-teens mark you're as sexually active as you'll ever get and then age doesn't really matter as you're both as "grown up" as you'll get.

Though, when you do a "Anna-Nicole Smith"- by marrying an old geezer its pretty... odd.

EDIT: Steve's 4 years younger than you Sharon?! You filthy cradle-robbing harlot-hussy-you!

 

[Psychosis]

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I truly believe that I have purposefully (but not consciously) set my standards such that I am not to get involved with anyone. I don't touch anyone more than a year from my own age. Finding someone my age who can interest me though, Jeezuz it's like trying to find a unicorn. But that's just my own hangups.

I think it's perfectly acceptable to get involved with older/younger partners so long as the law doesn't forbid it. I would also mention that both partners should be serious about the relationship and not just one trying to get in the other's pants, but that applies even without the age difference.

I agree with you so much on that last sentence. A relationship cannot be called a relationship unless the couple are serious about each other. Sure, people have silly, meaningless 'boyfriends' or 'girlfriends', it's part of growing up. But when you know that you are in love with someone who is also in love with you, it should be the most important thing in the world to the both of you. I don't understand people who say they are in love with their partner, and then go and cheat on them. If you truly love someone you do not cheat.

 

[Psychosis]

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Have you ever been in love?

 

[Angel]

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EDIT: Steve's 4 years younger than you Sharon?! You filthy cradle-robbing harlot-hussy-you!

Yup - I completely corrupted the poor boy too. He was a mere 19 year old when I got my claws into him :devil:

 

[Firis]

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I didn't bother to read anything other than the OP, I define it by consensual love, obviously under 11 when your above 18 is pedo buuuut, I feel you can go up to 90 years if you love each other.

 

[Tsuyu]

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I didn't bother to read anything other than the OP, I define it by consensual love, obviously under 11 when your above 18 is pedo buuuut, I feel you can go up to 90 years if you love each other.

So you consider 12 and above to be OK then?

 

[droded]

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One of my friends married for the first time at the age of 58.

His wife is 30 years younger than him.

 

[Firis]

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So you consider 12 and above to be OK then?

I feel that once they reach the age where they can have a feeling of Marital love then they can be married if they both conspire too, I don't think it is right to rape or force sex on anyone of any age... On that note, I hate children and consider anyone under 12 to be semi-sentient at best, "I don't mean to sound cruel and mean, but I am so that is the way it comes out."

 

[Walker]

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Well, I'm 17 and my girlfriend is 14. She's 15 next month. We don't consider the age gap a problem at all, neither do our parents. We think about it like this: In five years she will be 19 going on 20 and I will be 22. That's nothing at all. Do you mind if I ask whether you're in a similar situation?

A) No, but there is a girl two years younger than me who I may be interested in. B) No, because there are relatively few states in which a 19 and 17-year-old would be illegal if they, in theory, had sex. There are many, many states in which a 14 and 17-year-old (or a 15 and 17-year old) would be illegal. You better be careful, or you'll find out that [GASP!] her parents do care. And then you find yourself required to tell everyone you meet that you're legally required to inform them that you're a sex offender*.

(*You're a Brit, right? My comments might be invalid, depending on British law. But still.)

To the rest:

I might be fuzzy on the smaller gap I'm talking about, but I have to say that the bigger one is pretty unambiguous. No, it's not illegal, and it IS somewhat socially acceptable for, say, a twenty year old to marry a fifty year old. But really, anything bigger than about five years is going to be considered a bit creepy.

I'm sure that people with those huge gaps can have fine relationships that are just perfectly normal and healthy... but no matter what, there's going to be something a little bit icky about them. I mean (example time), if your wife was in fifth grade when you were graduating high school... well, that's disturbing. Or the other way around, for that matter.

 

[Mandaly]

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LOL my Dad was 20 years old when my mom was born...

 

[Psychosis]

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(*You're a Brit, right? My comments might be invalid, depending on British law. But still.)

I am indeed a Brit. And the age of sexual consent here is 16. We have not had sex yet. So everything is legal.

 

[Walker]

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I am indeed a Brit. And the age of sexual consent here is 16. We have not had sex yet. So everything is legal.

Yeah... but if it's something you might have to worry about... it's still a little disturbing.

 

[Psychosis]

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Yeah... but if it's something you might have to worry about... it's still a little disturbing.

We have nothing to worry about. We are both very much in love, and can willingly wait until we're both 'ready'.