Girl Advice

[killerequinox]

Re: Girl Advice

Take her out of the picture for a while and you'll be able to think clearer.

I’ve done that, twice. Trust me, I want to move on so we can both be happy, I just can’t. I feel like she should be mine, like I deserve her, but because I didn’t read her signals correctly at first, now someone else has stolen her from me.

Rather than being friends with her, I'd suggest cutting her out of your life, at least until you're able to manage yourself in a healthy manner.

Once again, I did that, but time away from her only stirs my emotions, and I start to miss her.

I know it's difficult what with everyone's initial preconceptions of love and loyalty and all that but there's nothing quite like the feeling of being with someone with whom you will have a less... complicated history that not only cares about you but is also with you and not with someone else.

It’s really hard to leave someone you have such a deep history with. With Amanda, it would be so easy to have a happy, healthy relationship, because we already know each other so well and are really comfortable together. I’ve tried to move on, but no one compares to her.

No matter which way you decide to look at it, she's either wronging this guy Tyler or she's wronging you, or both, and a woman who wrongs the man that loves her, or in this case men, plural, is a bad woman. Bad women are called bad women for a reason, they're bad. Go find a good woman, they're good.

I don’t think she’s a “bad woman”. If I were in her situation, I know it would be difficult, and there are no “right” answers where everyone can be happy. She got pushed into this emotional rollercoaster because 2 guys claimed they loved her. I know her. She’s extremely sweet and caring, and doing everything she can to make things work with me and Tyler.

 

[Cain]

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I just wish that someone was me.

Masturbating solves that problem.

You really to need to realise that if she cared about this tyler guy, then she would break it off as shes pretty much lying to him if she wants to be with you. Thats worse then breaking up with him and causing him pain because shes lying to him. She needs to take a while to think about this and who would really make her happy, not shes ok with either of you.

 

[SimonKalevra]

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Time will heal it.. probably

You say you tried to cut her off? well do it!
Don't go back now and try to steal her from that other dude - that's not cool! not even a date! nothing!

then her guy gets heartbroken, then she gets sad and say stuff like "Bohuuu it's was a mistake, it'll never happen again" then she won't be with you anyway.

It's like this: when (yes when, not if, when) women cheat, they end up cutting off both the boyfriend and the guy she fooled around with... of they realise it was a mistake anyway..

Now I'm not telling you what to do (oh but I am) but you should either spice up your current relationship, or end it and find someone else, preferebly a drunk one, at a party, with your friends.. maybe a video camera, I'm just saying... its great fun to look at afterwards ^_^

Happy hunting

 

[killerequinox]

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Masturbating solves that problem.

No, not really.

You really to need to realise that if she cared about this tyler guy, then she would break it off as shes pretty much lying to him if she wants to be with you. Thats worse then breaking up with him and causing him pain because shes lying to him. She needs to take a while to think about this and who would really make her happy, not shes ok with either of you.

She knows that I would make her happy, she said so herself. But Tyler makes her happy, too, and she doesn't want to break his heart. After all, she doesn't think I'm hurting anymore. I always tell her what a great friend she is, and on the outside no one can see anything but the illusion of content. On the inside, I'm dying without her...

 

[Cain]

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Congratulations you failed to take a joke.

Anyway, you shouldn't settle for second best. She obviously wants to stay with tyler. Be honest at least and tell her how you are still hurting. Keeping it hidden won't do you any good.

 

[Sephiroxas]

Re: Girl Advice

Be honest at least and tell her how you are still hurting. Keeping it hidden won't do you any good.

^^-- What I wanted to say really.

 

[killerequinox]

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Congratulations you failed to take a joke.

Sorry, I'm in a bit of a serious mood. I did laugh though.

Anyway, you shouldn't settle for second best. She obviously wants to stay with tyler. Be honest at least and tell her how you are still hurting. Keeping it hidden won't do you any good.

I told her that I was hurting a long time ago and it almost ruined our friendship. As long as she thinks I'm okay being "just a friend", she can still be happy, and I can at least be grateful that she's not out of my life completely.

 

[SimonKalevra]

Re: Girl Advice

I told her that I was hurting a long time ago and it almost ruined our friendship. As long as she thinks I'm okay being "just a friend", she can still be happy, and I can at least be grateful that she's not out of my life completely.

I can relate to that; I was in love with one of my best friends (yeah a female, duh) so I confessed, and she almost broke up with her boýfriend.

Now they've just moved in together and it's all my doing ^_^
She was so sad all the time, not the sexy pretty kiakc-ass ninja I know her as, so I ended up valuing our friendship higher than a blowjob (I still got the blowjob though )

Ha! no that's a lie, we just fooled around a bit, no hanky panky

 

[bowman]

Re: Girl Advice

Here is another one for you on getting over your ex girlfriend if youre still thinking about her.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YW2ZsYG1F5M

 

[killerequinox]

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First I want to say thanks to everyone who replied. You've all been really helpful. I have spent a few days thinking over my feelings for her and I've decided to move on from them. I realised that I was thinking with my emotions instead of my logic. And I was being selfish. I now accept that she's happy and in love with someone else, and maybe I'll find that someday.

One last thing, though. She asked me to homecoming... should I go?

 

[killerequinox]

Re: Girl Advice

We've been best friends for as long as her and Tyler have been together. I've decided to move on from loving her, but that doesn't mean I'm going to end our friendship altogether. She wants to go to homecoming with me, then prom her senior year with Tyler. Dancing is innocent enough, right?

 

[Arseface]

Re: Girl Advice

It honestly sounds like she's trying to have both of you.

 

[cheezMcNASTY]

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Dancing is innocent enough, right?

in the same way a foot massage is. honestly. you'll just be torturing yourself.

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[The Rh Factor]

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It honestly sounds like she's trying to have both of you.

Agreed.

Even if her boyfriend can't go for some reason, she could still go by herself, with a group of friends, or a more neutral (I'm not sure that this is the right word, but hopefully you know what i mean) male friend. If I was in a position where my boyfriend couldn't go with me to some event, I'd most likely go without a date, out of respect for him... and if I did choose to bring a male friend, it certainly wouldn't be someone I had a romantic history with who was still professing feelings of undying love for me. That's just not cool.

 

[mr man]

Re: Girl Advice

the master of girls is here :thunbsup:

its easy that girl amanda is a whore no offense a shes commiting adultery also if tyler knows you like her hes jealous of you and if he duz not hes attracted to a whore.alexis is an attention seeker and that was a bad choice going out with her.i loved a girl once and she rejected me(lily)and were still good friends but i wud hav nutin and i mean nutin to do with that "girl".just keep lookin even wen your wat ever you are you probaly still got bout 10 20 years of girls and there strange mind but they will always just be a girl not anything else

 

[Cain]

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EDIT: Calmed down, so I'm editing it.

Ok mr man you don't know this alexis girl and even if you did its still incredibly offensive to call her a whore.

 

[Purple Nurple]

Re: Girl Advice

the master of girls is here :thunbsup:

dood jump on taht a$$ those hoes luv it

 

[HobbeBrain]

Re: Girl Advice

Mr man, you make it sounds like you're a die hard sex pro. You're not. Stop.

As for the situation, I don't have anything to offer so I'll just wish you luck that everything ends up Ok, man

 

[droded]

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I once took girl advice from Mr Man.

Scored three of the best looking girls in my kindergarten class.

Thanks Mr Man! :thumbsup:

 

[Warpedhero]

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First I want to say thanks to everyone who replied. You've all been really helpful. I have spent a few days thinking over my feelings for her and I've decided to move on from them. I realised that I was thinking with my emotions instead of my logic. And I was being selfish. I now accept that she's happy and in love with someone else, and maybe I'll find that someday.

One last thing, though. She asked me to homecoming... should I go?

The short answer is...no.

The others are dead on the money, she's trying to have both of you.
As I once wrote in a rap(don't ask me about it):

"Use one for sex and the other for romance.."

She wants to have her cake and eat it too.

I would avoid her if I were you man, she sounds like she's no good.

I don't mean she's not kind.

She has obviously been kind to you, and that's why you find it so hard to avoid her, but trust me, she's just playing you.

The best thing for you to do would be to take Tyler aside and just be honest with him.

Ask him if he knows that she asked you to homecoming instead of him, because if she hasn't told him, there's a reason.

If she hasn't told him, you will find out what kind of girl she really is, and so will he, so it will be better for both of you if you let him in on what's going on.

Just my two cents.