Happened to Hex?

[Albion Knight]

Re: Happened to Hex?

Thank you Sephi. Anyone else have something to say about our dearly departed Hex?

I miss her on the forumy :'( I don't understand the ban it just reopens a wound. Maybe I missed something.

 

[FableFreak]

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I know there is something afoot, but seeing as its personal I don't care to get involved.

 

[Zingo]

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Im with Kamolakk, we should just wait and see if some admin is going to comment on this. Otherwise, we can just assume that is a personal reason to why she was banned, and hen we have nothing to do with it.

But for now, I miss hex!

 

[Sephiroxas]

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She's the one who left all on her own, though.

 

[Dark Drakan]

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the fact that drak's tossing out her email willy nilly to forumers giving a much more "interesting" idea why she left isn't exactly encouraging her to return either.

What are you talking about...? Ive never ever given her email to anyone and never would... where that suggestion came from I have no idea.

She sent me a long email accusing me of something I didnt do then blocked me on everything. I had no idea what was going on or about anything that had happened. I sent her some PM's to explain that I didnt have any idea what she was talking about and certainly didnt do what she said I had but she never came back to read them and ive done nothing since then.

I had nothing to do with the stripping of her mod powers either in case thats the next accusation anyone wants to throw my way.

I also had no clue about any ban until Markie told me so I cant be accused of that one either, I was actually playing online with Steves Cousin and Amanda from these forums at the very time it seemed to have happened.

 

[Steve]

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Hi guys,

I disabled her account yesterday. Why? Well, here's the funny thing: Turns out, judging by all the negative PM questions I've received, that Hex has been continuing to spread rumours and slander me. Coming out with all kinds of rubbish that isn't even remotely true.

I've heard all excuses under the sun for why people think I removed her from staff. Here's a few of the more common ones:

• I'm apparently racist against Canadians all of a sudden.
• I apparently demoted her because she's no longer together with Andy. *sigh*
• I have apparently been out to get her since day one (even though we used to play Gears of War co-op together - I can't hate her that much if I wanted to play online games with her, can I? Think about that one)

Know who started them? Hex. How do I know? Because that's half the rubbish she was throwing my way while I was attempting to have a decent conversation with her.

What's even more annoying is that people hear her side, which judging by the PMs I've been receiving are all absolute bull****. You don't hear me going around saying she did this and that, do you? I thought she was more mature than that. Her pride has been hurt and clearly she won't let it rest.

The funny thing is, I've let a few of you get on with dragging my name through the mud and, believe me, I would LOVE to post the contents of the PMs me and Hex exchanged when she decided to begin launching slanderous and offensive insults my way. And I STILL didn't ban her. I ENCOURAGED her to stay even while she was INSULTING me. I kept the PMs for proof. Thank God that I did. I am itching to take screenshots and post them on the front page of projectego.net to prove that what Hex has been saying is bull***. To be honest, I don't know what's holding me back aside from the fact that I'd personally like to see the end of it and allow her to move on.

Seems to me like she conveniently missed a lot of stuff out while spreading her gossip.

I disabled her account because she still has the PMs that she sent me and I sent her. In case any of you decided to say: Steve, you Photoshopped those PM pictures! I have the contents of her PM inbox as backup - should it ever have to come to that. If she wants to make another account, she's more than welcome to. I haven't disabled any of the accounts she has on the other forums so she can even carry on from where she left off if she wanted to.

Sorry guys, but despite what you may think, Hex was demoted because of her recent outburst and complaints; not because of the whatever gossip you've been hearing.

One last thing to bear in mind: Maybe, just maybe, I played everything by the book and was totally fair. Perhaps what you've been hearing from other people is only one side of the story, and not a very truthful one at that.

Wanna hear my side? It's not nearly as exciting as Hex's but it contains a whole lot more truth: Hex wasn't very nice to members, refused to act appropriately, followed by totally clearing her profile and leaving - so I demoted her. She understandably didn't like that and PMed me to throw accusations my way. The convo went alright for the first PM or two, I believe, before she began insinuating that I am a racist and a whole lot of other rubbish. I responded in a polite manner to all replies despite the offensive nature of hers and overly sarcastic tone. She never replied to my final PM and I haven't heard from her since.

I also found out recently that Hex hates my wife, Angel. Why? I have no idea. I know for a fact that she refers to my wife as a "Nazi" and "Hitler" amongst other unpleasant things. My wife sent a PM to Hex to bury the hatchet and Hex didn't even have the decency to reply.

Sorry to disappoint those of you who were hoping for some kind of conspiracy. Guess my version of what happened is just too boring.

Believe who you like, guys. Doesn't make any difference to me but I'd hope some of you trust that I'm a very fair person. I don't bear grudges and I forgive and forget.

But to be honest, though, I'm sick of all this crap and I bet Andy is, too. To be honest, I don't know how Andy has kept it together the way he has and not let it affect his attitude on the forum - he's a much stronger person that me.

What has happened is between me and Hex. Andy had nothing to do with her demotion or the disabling of her account. Give him a break.

/wall 'o text

 

[Dark Drakan]

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But to be honest, though, I'm sick of all this crap and I bet Andy is, too. To be honest, I don't know how Andy has kept it together the way he has and not let it affect his attitude on the forum - he's a much stronger person that me.

What has happened is between me and Hex. Andy had nothing to do with her demotion or the disabling of her account. Give him a break.

/wall 'o text

Thanks mate I do appreciate it, I really didnt need to read the false accusations of me handing her email out before i took my driving test this morning either (which i just failed again by way, i hate examiners). Sorry you have had to deal with all of this and I had no idea things had gotten so bad between you 3, she was always complimentary about you all to me so no idea where that slander started or why she didnt like Sharon.

Added yet more stress to me that I didnt need at this point.

Really irritated me that someone I thought I knew inside out and who I thought knew me enough would think I would be that petty to do that. Even I dont know the half of what was exchanged between the two of you as it was none of my business anymore, she blocked me after her accusations at me that werent true. Ive said nothing to her since except try and explain that her accusations definitely were not true but as she blocked me she never heard what I had to say in my defence and had drawn her own conclusion which is quite saddening as i thought she knew me better than that.

Id taken her side all the time and defended her time and time again and at one point as the staff will know I almost left the forums while defending her. I wont say a bad word about her now either as we always got on amazingly well and she certainly wasnt anything like shes been made out to be here with me.

Ive had some awesome times with her, some of the best for many years. Yet all ive had lately is accusations thrown at me and stuff thrown in my face and for what? What did I ever do?

We chatted for countless hours daily, gamed together daily (when my internet connection allowed) and had an awesome holiday together that I will never forget. She was someone I cared for and who I thought knew me enough to know I would never have done anything against her.

 

[Angel]

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Do you know what? I am sick to death of being nice when someone is behaving so appallingly. So screw the "right" response, this is exactly what I think of the situation:

She's a lying, slanderous, manipulative, racist, offensive, stuck-up, arrogant, mentally unbalanced, child who, because she cannot accept that she is capable of making mistakes, decided to leave of her own accord. And then blame everyone but herself for it.

She was a **** moderator during the last few months, she upset a lot of people and caused some to leave because of her caustic and disrespectful attitude. If she didn't like a member, even if there was no reason for the dislike, she would make it clear to them by attempting to be "intelligent" and sly in the way she spoke to them. Or simply shut them off with sarcasm - bad sarcasm, at that - and of course a number of people seemed to worship the big bad Hex and so they followed suit. Only a very few people stood up to the way she behaved and they were seemingly blacklisted after doing so. I had complaint after complaint about her and I defended her over and over again. I did not bring to the staff area and I kept it all private so that she wouldn't feel attacked. What a waste of time.

Her issue with me stemmed from some religion thing which she was too pig-headed to understand and decided to flame me in PM after PM. Numerous explanations and peace offerings made, although I did nothing wrong and it was all her fault, but she threw a (now) trademark Noelle Tantrum and wouldn't even respond. How very mature(!) Again, something I took on the chin and allowed her to continue to appear in the right, even though she was very much in the wrong.

As for her "being forced to leave because she isn't dating Andy anymore" what a load of ****ing bull****. Their relationship ended for whatever private reasons between the two of them and it's so pathetic how she has to drag him into every single argument.

She was racist, offensive and was told off. Big deal. But instead of taking it like a grown-up, she stropped off and had a little temper tantrum in the corner before claiming everything from racism to conspiracies. She is seriously deluded, obviously suffering some sort of mental problems and despite constantly saying "I don't care what people think" she obviously does otherwise this wouldn't matter so much to her.

Oh, and I'm "hitler"? A "nazi"? :lol: Had I dealt with her on here and not Steve you can bet your *** she'd not have been given as much leeway as she has been. Noelle, are you seriously comparing yourself to all those millions of Jews who suffered at Hitler's leisure? Oh please...get over yourself

And before some of you get all uppity and say "that's not fair what you're saying" let me tell you something. Firstly, I am entitled, given the poison she's been spewing lately, to my opinion. Secondly, would she hold back if it was anyone else? No, of course she wouldn't. She loves a fight - confrontation is like a drug to this girl. She has said more than enough lowdown, dirty and nasty things to me - I think for once I shall return the favour. It's out of character for me, but I really have had it up to here with this whole situation and how everyone is busy buzzing around on MSN and letting the gossip fly without even asking someone who actually knows what is going on. Two sides, people. Two sides.

 

[Dark Drakan]

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She has recently told me in an email that certain members said that I gave them her email to add her on MSN which is simply NOT true. So whoever those members were are lying, also that I apparently told them that I dumped her the day she left the forums which again obviously isnt true. I have never once said that as she ended things with me (which I now know the reason was to be with someone else).

So again whichever members have said that to her are lying once again and making me look bad to her. I have never had a bad word to say about her, in fact I defended her countless times and stood up for her in scenarios against people I have known for many years. She never gave me any reason to think she had been that way with my friends and it hurts to know they had to deal with that because of our relationship and the hard place it put them in.

 

[Tsuyu]

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I'm so torn into two pieces... :'(

 

[Angel]

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You shouldn't be. She's your friend and that is the way it will stay. You've done the right thing by not being involved and I respect that entirely. I'm not particularly happy about this situation, hence the rather volatile response, but I don't want friends of Hex to be divided somehow just because I'm venting.

The need to defend her is going to be strong with her friends - something I understand. But those who have been accused of things that are not true have a right to say their piece too.

 

[Albion Knight]

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I'm so torn into two pieces... :'(

I know how you feel Tsuyu I would like to see this whole thing laid to rest. Dragging it out here on the forums isn't helping anyone.

 

[Steve]

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I would like to see this whole thing laid to rest.

You and me both. I haven't breathed a word of this since day one. I'm not the one spreading all the viscous gossip about the "Great Admin Conspiracy of '07" over MSN.

Just wish she'd move on, or come back, or whatever. Instead of continuing to spread childish rumours about me and leaving out the parts that suit her.

 

[KmAI]

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As a note, from what I understand (and I live with her 4-5 days out of the week) She isn't really saying squat on the internet. She avoids this place because it makes her angry. She's just been playing xbox and hanging out with me. Most of the speculation is formed by other people so this is kinda blowing it out of proportion more than : Personal issues + little bit of a flame lit even if unintentional = leaving.

I'm not touching the subject of the egos in very much detail because I don't know the private exchanges I just know from being with her her attitudes: distaste, yes.. going Godwin's law on them? Doesn't seem her style.

 

[Dark Drakan]

Re: Happened to Hex?

As a note, from what I understand (and I live with her 4-5 days out of the week) She isn't really saying squat on the internet. She avoids this place because it makes her angry. She's just been playing xbox and hanging out with me. Most of the speculation is formed by other people so this is kinda blowing it out of proportion more than : Personal issues + little bit of a flame lit even if unintentional = leaving.

I'm not touching the subject of the egos in very much detail because I don't know the private exchanges I just know from being with her her attitudes: distaste, yes.. going Godwin's law on them? Doesn't seem her style.

I knew nothing about any PM's being exchanged until this thread. Whenever anyone has asked me why she left ive done as she asked me to and sent them that link to that other thread. So I dont know how the accusations got started or who started them or even how some people got her email address but rest assured it had nothing to do with me.

I think its just a case of people saying things that get twisted in the process and one thing after another being said and slowly becoming further away from what was originally said. Everything she seems to think I did is nothing more than people spreading **** and a misunderstanding. Ive never been much of a mudslinger or one to spread lies about others.

 

[Angel]

Re: Happened to Hex?

As a note, from what I understand (and I live with her 4-5 days out of the week) She isn't really saying squat on the internet. She avoids this place because it makes her angry. She's just been playing xbox and hanging out with me. Most of the speculation is formed by other people so this is kinda blowing it out of proportion more than : Personal issues + little bit of a flame lit even if unintentional = leaving.

I'm not touching the subject of the egos in very much detail because I don't know the private exchanges I just know from being with her her attitudes: distaste, yes.. going Godwin's law on them? Doesn't seem her style.

Not being funny, but you would say that - you're 'dating her' or whatever you want to call it, after all. Im just sorry Andy has had to deal with this so publicly...

I've been wondering whether the MSN side of things has been perhaps a combination of a comment made in passing compounded by a bit of stirring from other sources perhaps? I don't know. All my comments are based entirely on what I have been the recipient of and from what I have read from Hex's own hand/keyboard. Many things are said when tempers flare - even if it's not specifically their style.

Would have been nice if it could have all been sorted ages ago, but unfortunately all parties have to be willing to communicate and being able to accept when you are wrong is something which helps too. Many a situation can be diffused if all involved are willing to cooperate. The problems arise when someone or more than one person isn't interested in trying.

What's done is done. I don't think anyone can do anymore, to be honest.

 

[Albion Knight]

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It seems to me a lot of this is based upon hearsay and rumors not the best way to resolve issues even when not heated. Who ever it is that is going around saying so and so said this and so and so said that just needs to stop. It is only serving to inflame the situation. I wonder the motivation of such actions.

 

[cometojames]

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of all people hex. She seemed nice. Shame. Although im with steve on banning her, shouldnt use that anger on here when after all this is a family website. She should know better

 

[Silent420]

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I know some of what was said was my fault because I misheard what was told to me, and then some people misheard what I told them, The thing about 'drakan left hex the same day she left' was my fault I didnt mean to make it sound that way, I just told Hex I thought they broke up on the same day because I misunderstood drakan, but we cleared that up a bit later...

 

[Sephiroxas]

Re: Happened to Hex?

There's nothing really more to say. I've talked to her a couple of times. Not a lot really. we'd talk about games and stuff. She stops responding to me eventually.
We practically joined the forums at the same time. It was interesting to watch us each grow as members. And now she's gone. So it's hard to talk about anything with her. It's weird.

I don't know why she needed to insult you guys. Steve-O's always so nice. You too Angel. :noexpression:

*sigh*
(RIP)