My Friend Died On Monday

[HobbeBrain]

Lovely dude I met last Summer OD'ed on Ecstasy at a party on Friday and died on a hospital bed two days later. He wasn't even 17 yet.

This is the first time that anyone close to me has ever died and I'm ****ing crushed. I hadn't even seen him since November, but only a week before I was talking to that circle of friends about meeting up again and now we will never fully be able to because he's gone.

If anyone has advice or even just wants to try and cheer me up, that'd be massively appreciated. I just really feel awful right now.

 

[Skotekal]

I'd love to cheer you up man, but I just don't know how to. I lost a friend years ago, and it hurts. The only thing I did was try to keep my mind off of it and occupy myself, which you're probably already doing. I'd love to help more, but I'm just terrible at cheering people up.

 

[Dark Drakan]

We all lose people throughout life, awful that he had to go so young but I too have lost friends (car crashes & undiagnosed heart conditions). Be happy for the time you did get to spend with them and hold onto the good memories and go and live your life in a manner that would make your friend proud. Its really hard knowing you will never see their face again but doesnt take it away from memory.

 

[Tsuyu]

I had a similar experience a few years back: a good friend died from OD'ing HELIUM.

Freakin' helium, man... I didn't even know you could get high from that stuff...

 

[queenofdisco]

Ok I'm not being an arse just trying to lighten the mood, E can be pretty dangerous you never know what the **** has been mixed with it so I tend to avoid it completely. I'm here for you Ed you sexy beast all you gotta do is message me fool, let me make a scouser shaped hole in your heart Hobbe. <3

 

[cheezMcNASTY]

It's been a little over a year since I went through something similar. Basically what above people said. It never stops sucking, but it does get better.

You should try calling / visiting with his parents. It was by far the most fulfilling thing I did. Highly, highly recommend it.

Besides, it'll mean a lot to them to hear from one of his friends outside of the funeral.

 

[Tsuyu]

Also, don't stay mad at him. Not saying that you are, of course, but I was. Very mad. I missed my friend's funeral because I was ****in' mad at him for being stupid enough to die from helium that I just couldn't stand going to it, and I regret that deeply.

 

[HobbeBrain]

Also, don't stay mad at him. Not saying that you are, of course, but I was. Very mad. I missed my friend's funeral because I was f*****' mad at him for being stupid enough to die from helium that I just couldn't stand going to it, and I regret that deeply.

Not sure if friends are allowed to the funeral, I'll have to check. I went to a remembrance service held at his church, though, which just made me feel so weird. I guess it's better that I went, but it's so ****ing surreal, I can't even get my head around him being gone.

 

[Angel]

Grieve in whatever way works for you (obviously not doing anything destructive).

It's all I can recommend - I could share all the anecdotes in the world, all the metaphors and analogies, but at the end of the day, this affects you in a unique way and nothing anyone says will really ever hit the nail on the head.

So grieve, have good days, have bad days and whilst time is not necessarily a healer, it is pretty good at taking the sting out of a tragedy.

 

[Necromancer]

I'm very sorry to hear about this, Hobbe. I've never really lost anyone close to me, so I don't have any personal experience in this area to pull wisdom from. I don't really know what to say other than that I hope you get through this situation alright, and I wish you the best. Also, just remember that, as others here have said, things will absolutely get better with time.