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Inn0cent v0ice™

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Real life sucks

I always looked forward Saturday since that's when I always go out and have a
great time.
Well, this time, it wasn't, it was terrible.

So, I meet this girl few months ago and we really got closer during past weeks.
I told her that all I want was her friendship since nothing more was possible
( I saw her like every 2nd week ). I really really like her.

So, as life has to be an ***hole, she was standing in corner kissing with
some [ insert all kind of bad words here ] guy.
I felt sad, miserable, disappointed, angry, furious.
Since I had few drinks I told her everything, so we ended up fighting.
She blocked me from facebook and I deleted all that reminds me of her.

Truth is, I miss her, and I still love her, but this is 2nd time something
like this happened to me, and it hurts even more than the last time.

I just want to forget about her and feel better.
Friendly advice or comment would be nice.
 
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Take

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mix with

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Unfortunately mate, it seems it was inevitable. You never wanna give a girl you're interested in the "friendship card". It might seem like a way to spend some time with her without the seriousness of "telling her", but in the end you'll just get a "I like you... as a friend". Yeah, that one - the one that grabs you by the heart AND balls simultaneously, and then starts twisting...
 
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I think I had enough drinks for some time.
They got me in this situation, that, and the fact that I can't chose
a normal girl
But I sure would like to get my hands on that xbox
 
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Take these:

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Your head will explode, killing you.

It's for the best.
 
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Tsuyu;358662 said:
Isn't it supposed to be the stomach a'sploding?...?
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His mind will be blown is what I was implying.

:ermm:
 
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droded;358661 said:
Take these:

urbanlegends_poprocks_coke_03_10.jpg


Your head will explode, killing you.

It's for the best.
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I really do wish to kill myself atm.....but that's probably a bad idea

Firis;358666 said:
Sorry bout your luck dude, all I can say is appologise, give her a back rub and buy her a make-up bottle of wine/mead then see what happens.
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I would do that if my pride wouldn't be this high.
She blames me for this, I blame her.
 
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Sorry to say... She is right, she is ALWAYS right.

Back to seriousness, tell her that maybe it is your fault, maybe it is hers, but it doesn't mater who blew up the bridge, it is how well it is remade.
 
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Firis;358669 said:
Sorry to say... She is right, she is ALWAYS right.

Back to seriousness, tell her that maybe it is your fault, maybe it is hers, but it doesn't mater who blew up the bridge, it is how well it is remade.
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Problem is, I can't see her with other guys, I really can't, idk why, I just like
her that much.
If she would accept my apology, nothing would change, I still would like her a lot
and be jealous on other guys making things the same they are now.

So, the best thing would be just to let her go. But it's hard.
 
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Maybe examining yourself will help. Figure out what attracted you to her, if you truly felt love. Define true love. And this isn't going to be an immediate thing, it takes time, and different frames of mind.
If it was love, then it wasn't with the right person, or it just wasn't the time. And she obviously doesn't know what she wants, and was probably afraid and thought it would be awkward.
And her kissing a guy doesn't make the guy horrible...I don't think she was being lip raped.
 
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Inn0cent v0ice™;358671 said:
Problem is, I can't see her with other guys, I really can't, idk why, I just like
her that much.
If she would accept my apology, nothing would change, I still would like her a lot
and be jealous on other guys making things the same they are now.

So, the best thing would be just to let her go. But it's hard.
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True, but you shouldn't jeapordise a good friendship because she likes other men, and who knows, maybe... Just maybe, if you hang in there, you might become the guy she likes most.

Besides, breaking off doesn't help too much, from my experience it just replaced sorrow with disdain. But that probably won't be the case for you as I am me, and you are you.
 
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ssjcb1186;358672 said:
Maybe examining yourself will help. Figure out what attracted you to her, if you truly felt love. Define true love. And this isn't going to be an immediate thing, it takes time, and different frames of mind.
If it was love, then it wasn't with the right person, or it just wasn't the time. And she obviously doesn't know what she wants, and was probably afraid and thought it would be awkward.
And her kissing a guy doesn't make the guy horrible...I don't think she was being lip raped.
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I hate that guy atm, truly I do, I hope hi broke his leg -.-
I probably did love her a bit.
And actually, what it sucks, she made the 1st step, not me.
At 1st she was just regular friend and I never wanted more, but we had small party in train, and she kissed me... Since that day we were talking a lot about many
things. Problem was, when she kissed me, apparently she was drunk....... yeah right, no one can get drunk from that. If that hasn't happened, it would stay the same.

I know it sounds like I had a kiss, got big crush on her and that's it.
Doubt it is, I never felt like this before. I was looking forward getting up
at 5 am every day just to see her, I was hungry for a week to save enough
money to buy her present for birthday.

Firis;358673 said:
True, but you shouldn't jeapordise a good friendship because she likes other men, and who knows, maybe... Just maybe, if you hang in there, you might become the guy she likes most.

Besides, breaking off doesn't help too much, from my experience it just replaced sorrow with disdain. But that probably won't be the case for you as I am me, and you are you.
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I can't call this a friendship, since I told her the truth and she got mad.
I mean, was I suppose to lie ?

JohnDoe;358674 said:
A few months is nothing when discussing even just the possibility of serious relationships, and that is not nearly enough time to get upset about something like this, let alone heartbroken. It's not like she stuck around for a few years, siphoned your bank accounts, took your car, convinced you to change your entire life for her, only with you to find out that your were the last to learn that she's been seeing someone else for a few months. As far as serious, real relationships go, a few months is a papercut, so grab a bandaid and suck it up.

I know everyone else here is too nice to say these things, but it's something that needs to be said, so there you go.

Your friend,
JohnDoe
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I asked for advice, doesn't matter how harsh it is.
Your post is great, but I wish it would be that simple.
I am probably stupid for letting this bother me so much
 
Re: Real life sucks

When things go bad with a girl I go and do stupid stuff to ease the pain. Boogie boarding on wet grass, sitting in the jacuzzi then afterwards jump in the cold pool, yelling at people at the park and driving off, those sorts of things.
 
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Well, that does suck. Nothing you can do but learn from it, and do better next time.

And I would aggree with John about you overreacting a bit to this. Then again, you are young, and everything like this is magnified the younger you are. The trick is to be cool about everything. If you act like it doesn't bother you (and really, it shouldn't), then she'll think you're this down to Earth kind of guy. If you freak out about every little thing (especially if you aren't together), it just makes you look like a psycho who wants to control her.

Is she actually in a relationship with the guy she was pashing? Or is it just a party pash? Party pashes mean absolutely nothing (emotionally at least). I really wouln't be worried.

And it's not his fault he took the opportunity you didn't want to take. It's not her fault for doing exactly what you said and just staying friends. It's not your fault for handling the situation poorly. It's just a series of unfortunate events. Stop trying to lay the blame and, like Firis said, rebuild the bridge.

In summary: It's really not worth getting to upset over this. It's probably not worth trying to throw her friendship away, either. Apologise, accept the blame (it is always the right thing to do in a relationship) and try to take it from there either into a real relationship, or remain friends.
 
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HeroOfCrapsalot;358688 said:
When things go bad with a girl I go and do stupid stuff to ease the pain. Boogie boarding on wet grass, sitting in the jacuzzi then afterwards jump in the cold pool, yelling at people at the park and driving off, those sorts of things.
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That's something I could do, probably will do, and later regret.


Arseface;358689 said:
Well, that does suck. Nothing you can do but learn from it, and do better next time.

And I would agree with John about you overreacting a bit to this. Then again, you are young, and everything like this is magnified the younger you are. The trick is to be cool about everything. If you act like it doesn't bother you (and really, it shouldn't), then she'll think you're this down to Earth kind of guy. If you freak out about every little thing (especially if you aren't together), it just makes you look like a psycho who wants to control her.

Is she actually in a relationship with the guy she was pashing? Or is it just a party pash? Party pashes mean absolutely nothing (emotionally at least). I really wouln't be worried.

And it's not his fault he took the opportunity you didn't want to take. It's not her fault for doing exactly what you said and just staying friends. It's not your fault for handling the situation poorly. It's just a series of unfortunate events. Stop trying to lay the blame and, like Firis said, rebuild the bridge.

In summary: It's really not worth getting to upset over this. It's probably not worth trying to throw her friendship away, either. Apologise, accept the blame (it is always the right thing to do in a relationship) and try to take it from there either into a real relationship, or remain friends.
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I know I am overreacting, I just can't help myself.
And I'll just do something to forget about all this, this shouldn't bother me at all.
Probably it won't, I just need some time.

She was going to be in a relationship with him as she said, probably that would
make me feel even worse.

I doubt I want to be her friend. I really don't want something like this happens to me
again. She is nothing special, there are plenty fishes in the sea.
 
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If that's the way you really feel, then by all means. I think you should figure out 100% what you want before you do anything. That means sitting down and going through everything, as objectively as you can. Not acting on instinct.
 
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Arseface;358709 said:
If that's the way you really feel, then by all means. I think you should figure out 100% what you want before you do anything. That means sitting down and going through everything, as objectively as you can. Not acting on instinct.
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I just want to feel better, and now I do, I took some walking and fresh air.
Life is way to short to be bothered by this things.
Thanks guys for support
 
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