ScareCrow
I'm sorry I wasn't online yesterday to post in your thread before it was closed, and I'm sorry for what has happened to your family. I've made this thread to try and help you despite your wishes.
First of all, to all those saying things like "THIS IS THE TRUTH! YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH" - bull****. There is no such thing as the "truth" when you don't know the people involved personally - each person is a unique individual and therefore they experience circumstances unique to their lives. You cannot tell ScareCrow what is and what isn't fact, all you've got are personal opinions based on your own experiences.
You may say things like "MY PARENTS DIVORCED, THAT MEANS I'VE BEEN THERE AND UNDERSTAND!" - no. You have not been in his situation, and you do not understand it from ScareCrow's point of view. Just because your parents are divorced or you have experienced pain in your life doesn't mean that you are an expert on divorce and pain.
You shouldn't try to convince ScareCrow that his parents are different people - he has known them 19 years and you have never met them. The length of time he has known them both is why this is so painful for him - he thought he knew them but it turns out they were keeping secrets and lying to him. THAT is why he is upset, not because they are divorcing in the first place and not because his dad cheated.
Once again to those who claim to know the pain of divorce - ScareCrow asked for advice on how to react, NOT for opinions about how he should still love his parents no matter what. Nearly every post I read in the thread was pretentious and ignorant, not to mention the amount of time they contradicted themselves.
You should have used your knowledge of divorce to comfort ScareCrow instead of trying to change his view of life. He came here for help from a family because his real family is breaking apart, and certain members who failed to see this came and screwed it all up.
My advice to you ScareCrow is to simply comfort and support your mother no matter what for a little while - she has stood by you this whole time and supporting her in a terrible situation like this would be the noble thing to do. After some time has passed and your mother has calmed down, then you can start to mention your father and step-sister - she will most likely understand and support your decisions because you have been good to her. But then again, this is also only my opinion - do with it what you will.
EDIT: TL;DR - Do not force your opinion down other's throats with the excuse "Hey don't be offended, I'm just telling the TRUTH."
There is no such thing as a "True Opinion" - it is an Oxymoron.
I'm sorry I wasn't online yesterday to post in your thread before it was closed, and I'm sorry for what has happened to your family. I've made this thread to try and help you despite your wishes.
First of all, to all those saying things like "THIS IS THE TRUTH! YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH" - bull****. There is no such thing as the "truth" when you don't know the people involved personally - each person is a unique individual and therefore they experience circumstances unique to their lives. You cannot tell ScareCrow what is and what isn't fact, all you've got are personal opinions based on your own experiences.
You may say things like "MY PARENTS DIVORCED, THAT MEANS I'VE BEEN THERE AND UNDERSTAND!" - no. You have not been in his situation, and you do not understand it from ScareCrow's point of view. Just because your parents are divorced or you have experienced pain in your life doesn't mean that you are an expert on divorce and pain.
You shouldn't try to convince ScareCrow that his parents are different people - he has known them 19 years and you have never met them. The length of time he has known them both is why this is so painful for him - he thought he knew them but it turns out they were keeping secrets and lying to him. THAT is why he is upset, not because they are divorcing in the first place and not because his dad cheated.
Once again to those who claim to know the pain of divorce - ScareCrow asked for advice on how to react, NOT for opinions about how he should still love his parents no matter what. Nearly every post I read in the thread was pretentious and ignorant, not to mention the amount of time they contradicted themselves.
You should have used your knowledge of divorce to comfort ScareCrow instead of trying to change his view of life. He came here for help from a family because his real family is breaking apart, and certain members who failed to see this came and screwed it all up.
My advice to you ScareCrow is to simply comfort and support your mother no matter what for a little while - she has stood by you this whole time and supporting her in a terrible situation like this would be the noble thing to do. After some time has passed and your mother has calmed down, then you can start to mention your father and step-sister - she will most likely understand and support your decisions because you have been good to her. But then again, this is also only my opinion - do with it what you will.
EDIT: TL;DR - Do not force your opinion down other's throats with the excuse "Hey don't be offended, I'm just telling the TRUTH."
There is no such thing as a "True Opinion" - it is an Oxymoron.
I mean after all, the original topic DID spiral out of control. I just don't want to see that happen again. :O
