Love?

[ssjcb1186]

Re: Love?

First of all, Sex isn't Love, nor is Love Sex. It does not create love or form love. It is an act of "Love" but also an act of Lust. You're only 16, you shouldn't even know what love feels like. Being a physical person and saying thins and that means nothing.

True Love, on the other hand, is NOT something you find. It is something you earn, it is something you work on all your life, not something you feel all your life. If you truly love someone, you will forgive them; if you truly love someone, you will let them go; if you truly love someone, you will listen, you will communicate, and you will work.

Obviously your parents are divorced. This happens when you don't work out problems or communicate. This society we live in today has replaced the word "Lust" with "Love." There is no trust in Lust, or communication, or even friendship. There is only Sex, jealousy, and chaos. We, as people in the 21st century, want sex...a lot. We have come to put Love and Sex together as we have been taught that Sex is a showing of Love. This is not true.

Parents who stay together are parents that talk to each other. They all feel that kind of love in the beginning, or they wouldn't get married. Working on a relationship is a life long thing, for you must learn about that person and continue learning about that person until you die. My parents have been in plenty of fights and arguments, but they've been married for 25 happy years, and I know they love each other unconditionally. Love accepting the other's faults.

Love is a TWO WAY street, we must remember this. One person can't make a relationship work, they both have to contribute.

I avoid saying "I love you" to even my friends, even though I do love them. Love is a deep, passionate feeling for someone else, and my friends are so precious to me that I do love them, but I'm so afraid of love myself I don't want to say it. Throwing such a powerful word like that around is a dangerous thing. Even though I say "words only have as much power as you give them," we give Love such powerful meaning, but mean little ourselves when we utter such a word.

Your girlfriend did not EVER love you, and I doubt you really loved her. In the rare case that you did or she did, it obviously wasn't reciprocal. There was no communication. Stop being devastated over a high school crush, you'll get over it and get another one. You don't need to make 2 threads about her, you're either jealous and upset that she left you, or you actually loved her. But in that case, you're being too immature and not handling it well. If you love her, let her go. Let her talk about you, let her TRY to put you down. The only one that can put you down in you. Don't try to get revenge; if you actually cared, you would let it go, but obviously that's not the case.

 

[Guilty Sp4rk]

Re: Love?

I don't think there is a perfect person for everyone. However, I believe people can be very compatible. Being in a relationship myself (and I don't mean a high school relationship, I mean a serious long term relationship) I believe true love can exist. But for it to exist there must be an understanding that even the best couples will have problems. If you can work through anything life throws at you and still feel the same love when everything is said and done, that's when I call true.

And as ssjcb1186 said, you must earn it first.

 

[Noctus]

Re: Love?

Of course love is real.

 

[Fenrir]

Re: Love?

I dont know him personally so I cant be a judge on whether or not he loved her. I beleive he thought he did. But I have to say, she bought her ticket for a train wreck when she went out of her way to make him feel like s**t about it, taking advantage of his emotions.

wait.. i dont think that was explained in this thread. or the topic of this thread. this isn't where I parked my car.

 

[Cobalt Gamer]

Re: Love?

Your ego is too big

I didn't bother to read the rest, because this is so true, I am just amazing :]

 

[Arseface]

Re: Love?

^ not something to be proud of, dude.

Why do people wear their bad attitudes like a badge of honour? It drodeds me so much.

 

[Dark Drakan]

Re: Love?

I didn't bother to read the rest, because this is so true, I am just amazing :]

This is one of the reasons you will never find it until you change your attitude. You put your own needs before anyone elses and you will never be truly commited to a person because you will be only protecting your own interests and needs. Relationships are 50/50 and you have to listen and understand, not use them to fuel an ego.

There is such a thing as true love but you have to earn the right to experience it, it doesnt just find you and all end happily ever after as life is no fairytale. Ive had some ups and downs in my love life and some really good times and some really bad times but you have to learn from each experience and better yourself accordingly. When a relationship doesnt work you dont just sit and moan and close yourself up, you have to take a step back and look at why it didnt work and make sure that it doesnt happen again. With every failed relationship its another lesson learned and another future bullet to be dodged.

I became a much stronger person and learnt more about myself over the years because of this and now im in a very happy relationship and have been for a year tomorrow (anniversary day). Maybe something will happen that will mess it up one day but cant live everyday thinking that its not going to work as thinking like that will only make it not work.

Why do people wear their bad attitudes like a badge of honour?

Only happens until life slaps them in the face one day and they realise they have alienated every person they ever cared about or who cared about them. Once they realise a life on their own isnt as appealing as it once seemed they will wake up from their egotistical daydream. However most of the time the people who seem the most sure of themselves and the most cocky only do that to cover up their own insecurities. Instead they are usually the opposite when you get past that cover and they are in fact vunerable and insecure.

 

[Sean]

Re: Love?

This is one of the reasons you will never find it until you change your attitude. You put your own needs before anyone elses and you will never be truly commited to a person because you will be only protecting your own interests and needs. Relationships are 50/50 and you have to listen and understand, not use them to fuel an ego.

There is such a thing as true love but you have to earn the right to experience it, it doesnt just find you and all end happily ever after as life is no fairytale. Ive had some ups and downs in my love life and some really good times and some really bad times but you have to learn from each experience and better yourself accordingly. When a relationship doesnt work you dont just sit and moan and close yourself up, you have to take a step back and look at why it didnt work and make sure that it doesnt happen again. With every failed relationship its another lesson learned and another future bullet to be dodged.

I became a much stronger person and learnt more about myself over the years because of this and now im in a very happy relationship and have been for a year tomorrow (anniversary day). Maybe something will happen that will mess it up one day but cant live everyday thinking that its not going to work as thinking like that will only make it not work.



Only happens until life slaps them in the face one day and they realise they have alienated every person they ever cared about or who cared about them. Once they realise a life on their own isnt as appealing as it once seemed they will wake up from their egotistical daydream. However most of the time the people who seem the most sure of themselves and the most cocky only do that to cover up their own insecurities. Instead they are usually the opposite when you get past that cover and they are in fact vunerable and insecure.

I agree with Drakan.

 

[Necromancer]

Re: Love?

Hmm...love...what would I know about that? Well, I'm 17, so the answer to that question would be absolutely nothing.

I told a girlfriend of mine that I loved her when we were together two years ago. What we had was far from love, and I hate myself for telling her that.

I don't think there's that perfect person out there for everyone, though. There are billions of people on this planet, there has to be a decent amount of people that would be right for any given person. Even though I don't believe in being in "true love" with that "one special person", I still believe that you could be in love with somebody.

if you truly love someone, you will let them go

That is one of the most bullsh*t-littered cliches out there.

 

[Dark Drakan]

Re: Love?

I don't think there's that perfect person out there for everyone, though. There are billions of people on this planet, there has to be a decent amount of people that would be right for any given person. Even though I don't believe in being in "true love" with that "one special person", I still believe that you could be in love with somebody.

I agree with this too, i mean this planet is filled with billions of people so there is going to be a lot of people who would be a good match for you. People shouldnt get to hung up on one person at such a young age.

 

[Arseface]

Re: Love?

This reminds me of Family Guy's take on One Tree Hill:

We're teenagers. Our problems matter!

 

[Cain]

Re: Love?

First of all, Sex isn't Love, nor is Love Sex. It does not create love or form love. It is an act of "Love" but also an act of Lust. You're only 16, you shouldn't even know what love feels like. Being a physical person and saying thins and that means nothing.

True Love, on the other hand, is NOT something you find. It is something you earn, it is something you work on all your life, not something you feel all your life. If you truly love someone, you will forgive them; if you truly love someone, you will let them go; if you truly love someone, you will listen, you will communicate, and you will work.

Obviously your parents are divorced. This happens when you don't work out problems or communicate. This society we live in today has replaced the word "Lust" with "Love." There is no trust in Lust, or communication, or even friendship. There is only Sex, jealousy, and chaos. We, as people in the 21st century, want sex...a lot. We have come to put Love and Sex together as we have been taught that Sex is a showing of Love. This is not true.

Parents who stay together are parents that talk to each other. They all feel that kind of love in the beginning, or they wouldn't get married. Working on a relationship is a life long thing, for you must learn about that person and continue learning about that person until you die. My parents have been in plenty of fights and arguments, but they've been married for 25 happy years, and I know they love each other unconditionally. Love accepting the other's faults.

Love is a TWO WAY street, we must remember this. One person can't make a relationship work, they both have to contribute.

I avoid saying "I love you" to even my friends, even though I do love them. Love is a deep, passionate feeling for someone else, and my friends are so precious to me that I do love them, but I'm so afraid of love myself I don't want to say it. Throwing such a powerful word like that around is a dangerous thing. Even though I say "words only have as much power as you give them," we give Love such powerful meaning, but mean little ourselves when we utter such a word.

Your girlfriend did not EVER love you, and I doubt you really loved her. In the rare case that you did or she did, it obviously wasn't reciprocal. There was no communication. Stop being devastated over a high school crush, you'll get over it and get another one. You don't need to make 2 threads about her, you're either jealous and upset that she left you, or you actually loved her. But in that case, you're being too immature and not handling it well. If you love her, let her go. Let her talk about you, let her TRY to put you down. The only one that can put you down in you. Don't try to get revenge; if you actually cared, you would let it go, but obviously that's not the case.

You don't know if his parents are divorced, and that statement really only applies to if somebody you love is dying and on life support and so you cut them off to spare them the pain of dying slowly. And go droded yourself, people react to break ups in different ways. And your speech is mostly filled with cliches and statements that are very obvious.

You have not helped at all, you might as well've said,"STFU and get over it droded."

 

[Arseface]

Re: Love?

You don't know if his parents are divorced, and that statement really only applies to if somebody you love is dying and on life support and so you cut them off to spare them the pain of dying slowly. And go droded yourself, people react to break ups in different ways. And your speech is mostly filled with cliches and statements that are very obvious.

There was actually some advice in that wall of text. The jist of what he's saying is basically this, "Love doesn't just happen to you, you have to find it, and work to keep it."

You have not helped at all, you might as well've said,"STFU and get over it droded."

That post was infinitely less helpful.

 

[Cain]

Re: Love?

There was actually some advice in that wall of text. The jist of what he's saying is basically this, "Love doesn't just happen to you, you have to find it, and work to keep it."

Well why didn't he just say that rather than have a huge speech

 

[Arseface]

Re: Love?

You would have to ask him. Maybe he rambles a lot?

 

[Dark Drakan]

Re: Love?

Well why didn't he just say that rather than have a huge speech

Nothing wrong with explaining things in detail if the main points are there.

 

[Necromancer]

Re: Love?

As JD said...

I like length. It filters out the dumb as they get discouraged by blocks of text.

 

[ssjcb1186]

Re: Love?

That is one of the most bullsh*t-littered cliches out there.

calm down...

You don't know if his parents are divorced, and that statement really only applies to if somebody you love is dying and on life support and so you cut them off to spare them the pain of dying slowly. And go droded yourself, people react to break ups in different ways. And your speech is mostly filled with cliches and statements that are very obvious.

I know I assumed, but I happen to read between the lines when I read. I know assuming isn't good to do, but I was passionate/annoyed so I said it factually when I have no proof. I apologize if I offended you (though I shouldn't have since it has nothing to do with you) but I can't take it back.

Your also only 14, so I don't think you have any authority to bash anything I say.

You have not helped at all, you might as well've said,"STFU and get over it droded."

That's not what I was trying to get across; I was trying to get across wisdom/knowledge, don't put words in my mouth please ^_^

That post was infinitely less helpful.

Agreed

Well why didn't he just say that rather than have a huge speech

just saying that doesn't get any point across, details are supposed to help you understand, but that's up to the individual.

You would have to ask him. Maybe he rambles a lot?

I really do...I need to work on that

Quote:
Originally Posted by JohnDoe View Post
I like length. It filters out the dumb as they get discouraged by blocks of
text.

I like that a lot


And thanks for the defense, I didn't know people would actually do that for me...it makes me happy to see kindness and civility once in a while...unlike that other thread I was in...ugh, what a disaster...

Once again...thank you

 

[droded]

Re: Love?

Well why didn't he just say that rather than have a huge speech

Need I refer you to the post below?

That's it, that's your argument as to why true love exists? becuase you believe in it? well going on that I suppose all religions are real too, I believe I am god therefore I am? Sweet.

 

[Necromancer]

Re: Love?

calm down...

I am calm. I wasn't at all angry when I posted that. If you don't agree with what I posted, then defend your side of things.

Your also only 14, so I don't think you have any authority to bash anything I say.

His age means nothing. He is far more mature, insightful, and intelligent than most 14-year-olds I've encountered. I was legitimately surprised when I first heard how old he was.