You've Got To Be Kidding Me

[Arseface]

Re: You've Got To Be Kidding Me

Agree with Angel, but the trick is how you go about it. If you make these draconian, seemingly arbitrary rules about what to do and what not to do, you're only going to get them rebelling. The trick is communication. Once they get old enough to understand the sorts of things you want them to, then all you have to do is talk to them. Of course you will have to hope that they'll heed your words, but that's all you can do anyway.

That's all from my experience as a stay at home mother back in the '80s.

 

[Gikoku]

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Sharon is right.

He's not a hypocrite

Yes he is. He... perfectly fits the definition.

 

[Noctus]

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If parents didn't teach their kids to not make the mistakes that they did, kids would be completely out of control and impossible to teach sense into them.

Do as they say, not as they do. They don't say anything for no reason, unless they're tw*ts.

 

[Zjuggernaut]

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You're missing the point entirely.

I'm not talking about those kind of experiences, I'm talking about the kind of experience that one can only get with age, stuff ranging from "shave in only one direction, up or down, never sideways" to stuff like "one day, you'll meet a woman and..." to stuff regarding helpful techniques that you can use to raise your children, to a long range of infinite other things. Now, I wish I listened to my dad when he was trying to help me learn to shave, but now I cut myself on the same spot almost every single morning.

I actually didn't get the talk about women, and I'll never get the talk about what to do when I feel like strangling my children for acting just like I used to, but any of you might, and I suggest you listen to it. Because it isn't "interesting" to regret a single incident in your life for every day of your life, especially when it boils down to not listening to your parents. And it isn't "perfect" or without excitement to learn from the mistakes of your parents because, by Murphy's Law, you're going to make plenty, plenty of your own mistakes as well. Why not just make fewer of them?

Ah. Thanks for clearing that up. I might have just "scanned" your post when I should have probably read more into it.

 

[Fenrir]

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Faggot is a fairly offensive term to use. Even though It's a type of food. Similar to be a meatball.

I did not know that s**t!

As for the parent, he just doesnt want you making his mistakes. Notice all the things you point out he did in the past, not present, and has learned a lesson the hard way and doesnt want you to.

 

[Angel]

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Agree with Angel, but the trick is how you go about it. If you make these draconian, seemingly arbitrary rules about what to do and what not to do, you're only going to get them rebelling. The trick is communication. Once they get old enough to understand the sorts of things you want them to, then all you have to do is talk to them. Of course you will have to hope that they'll heed your words, but that's all you can do anyway.

That's all from my experience as a stay at home mother back in the '80s.

I knew it! :lol:

It does, of course, depend on the child, the developmental age, the emotional maturity etc etc - but to be fair, if you are, say, 16 and acting like a three year old, what parent in their right mind is going to treat you like you want to be treated? If my 8 year old acts like a baby, she gets treated like one and very quickly realises it's not nearly as productive as she thought.

Just shouting "do as I say" all the time doesn't help anyone but when someone is behaving accordingly, sometimes a simple "because I say so" has to suffice until all parties are ready to discuss things properly.

 

[Arseface]

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But if they're willing to fully accept that, then they're either scared of you or they acknowledge that you may actually know what you're talking about.

 

[Aristo]

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He considers it a swearword.

So do my parents and they don't sit well hearing euphemism either. They won't allow me to bring any movies in the house that have swearing either or anything suggestive, even though I catch my father all the time watching movies like this . My dad does swear occasionally too when he gets angry enough usually at me for language or behavior but I've toned down enough for them to be pretty cool now, well most of the time. I have had my share of threats to be kicked out of my house and so as I am still in school and can't support myself yet I have to conform to their rules when they are around. Though I get along a little better with my mother they both have told me countless times, you live under our roof, if you don't like our rules you can leave! I agree with a lot of what others were saying, about their parent's being hypocrites too. I guess they mean well but sometimes it's hard to not hate them lol.