Was thinking back on when I was a kid and my parents (specifically my dad) would occasionally beat me with a belt to help set me straight whenever I acted up, and how much of an effect it had on me in the long term. Looking at it right now, it did very little to set me straight in my youth and found myself simply being a lot more clever to avoid said whippings. It wasn't until I got older (around 11) that I picked up more common sense through other experiences (such as teachers talking to me) and learned to stop hanging around certain people on my own.
The whippings did little except provide temporary pain, week-long discomfort and making me angry. My dad was raised to believe that when a child acts up.. that is what you're supposed to do. So I rarely got sit-down talks unless my mother managed to get to me first or when she wasn't tied up by the hours of her job.
If I'm to ever have children of my own.. I just can't see myself ever physically harming them in such a way in order to "teach" them how to act better. In some circumstances when appropriate to spank a child, sure, or take things away, but otherwise I'd rather talk to them and try to sort out the issue.
So, my questions being, what form of discipline did you go through as a child and if it were physical, did it actually help with your misbehavior? What do you feel are more appropriate forms of discipline for children? To those of us that have children themselves, how do you feel about disciplining a child? Do you discipline your children, and how?
The whippings did little except provide temporary pain, week-long discomfort and making me angry. My dad was raised to believe that when a child acts up.. that is what you're supposed to do. So I rarely got sit-down talks unless my mother managed to get to me first or when she wasn't tied up by the hours of her job.
If I'm to ever have children of my own.. I just can't see myself ever physically harming them in such a way in order to "teach" them how to act better. In some circumstances when appropriate to spank a child, sure, or take things away, but otherwise I'd rather talk to them and try to sort out the issue.
So, my questions being, what form of discipline did you go through as a child and if it were physical, did it actually help with your misbehavior? What do you feel are more appropriate forms of discipline for children? To those of us that have children themselves, how do you feel about disciplining a child? Do you discipline your children, and how?