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Speak with her and tell her you have also other things to do? But keep your voice nice, and don't make her feel that you are trying to get rid of her. Just explain the problem nicely. (ps: I wish you two luck)
Sounds like a fairytale ending up until the part where she takes up all your free time.
Here's my input:
Only call her once a week. She will be irritated at first because you have probably been calling her alot more than that, but trust me, once a week.
Go on a date with her every other week. One week go on a date, the next week hang out with your friends, so she doesn't get dependent on you.
Don't spoil her. Tell her that you feel you're rushing into a relationship and that you'd like to take things slow for a while.
One last thing: start looking around for a backup girl. It sounds underhanded, but actually you are just providing yourself with a safety net in case your current relationship doesn't work out.
That's my two cents. Good luck!
Here's my input:
Only call her once a week. She will be irritated at first because you have probably been calling her alot more than that, but trust me, once a week.
Go on a date with her every other week. One week go on a date, the next week hang out with your friends, so she doesn't get dependent on you.
Don't spoil her. Tell her that you feel you're rushing into a relationship and that you'd like to take things slow for a while.
One last thing: start looking around for a backup girl. It sounds underhanded, but actually you are just providing yourself with a safety net in case your current relationship doesn't work out.
That's my two cents. Good luck!
First of all, good for you! Your life is every guy's dream... But if all that "exertion" is getting to be too much, I'd suggest that you just talk to her and explain that you need some time to do your own thing. If she can't accept that, then she's probably too controlling and would make your life miserable in the long run anyway (unless, of course, you're into that "being controlled" sort of thing...).
You can either cut off your dick, break up with the sex-drunk little harlot, or take a step back and realize that you have exactly what most guys would kill for. Also, I'm not entirely sure that projectego is the ideal place to ask for advice on what to do about such a voracious fornication fiend...
In all honesty if you spending time with her is cutting into your free-time, so to speak, you really just need to talk to her. If she's going to be a controlling cow about it all, then maybe you should see other people. You seem like a fairly independent guy so having such a clingy and demanding mate is probably just throwing you for a loop.
In all honesty if you spending time with her is cutting into your free-time, so to speak, you really just need to talk to her. If she's going to be a controlling cow about it all, then maybe you should see other people. You seem like a fairly independent guy so having such a clingy and demanding mate is probably just throwing you for a loop.
i can only offer advice based on my friends experience...which i was involved in as i was his only friend in a hos over bros situation.
she would only have his undivided attention, and when i tried to get space she took offense. the only solution was to either get a prince albert piercing using a needle fashioned from her hair, or to cut it off. it all comes down to several simple questions to ask yourself:
is she willing to compromise, if so how much?
are you willing to accept whatever reaction she has to the notion of 'space'?
and lastly, would you rather be separated from her than devote all of your time and energy to her alone?
i can't offer anything from personal experience. my venture into online dating got into IRL, but she was crazy. a different kind of crazy from yours (not dangerous, though).
she would only have his undivided attention, and when i tried to get space she took offense. the only solution was to either get a prince albert piercing using a needle fashioned from her hair, or to cut it off. it all comes down to several simple questions to ask yourself:
is she willing to compromise, if so how much?
are you willing to accept whatever reaction she has to the notion of 'space'?
and lastly, would you rather be separated from her than devote all of your time and energy to her alone?
i can't offer anything from personal experience. my venture into online dating got into IRL, but she was crazy. a different kind of crazy from yours (not dangerous, though).
First off, welcome back brother, secondly: Ask her to make a thousand PB&J sandwiches, gives you free time and a thousand yummy sandwiches, win win.
Hang on, hang on - something I just noticed. You met this girl a couple of weeks ago but the last 6-8 weeks have been taken up by her wanting to get jiggy with it all the time?
Uh...anyone else getting this?
Uh...anyone else getting this?
Thanks for the advice - as most of you have probably guessed, I love... Uh... Her company, so I do not want to get rid of her.
I'd just like a way to get some of my time back.
Couple of months*, that's a typo.
I'd just like a way to get some of my time back.
Couple of months*, that's a typo.
But it takes two to tango, So when you say shes taken up YOUR time, you mean You have co-operated with her to take up your time? You cant just blame her for it, even if she is really minipulating.. Its your fault if she walks all over. If its bothering you a bit, just be like "Yo babe, Me and my boys are going to go away for a bit and hannnngz out like killers" and then simply plan a trip with yah mates or something, have time off without her. and so do this every now and then with your buddies..
Do you have a job? Get a job, that'd get you income and it'd keep you busy, not with her.
OR straight up tell her that we spend alot of time together and i'd like it if I had more time to myself and with my friends, and so whenever I see you it'd be so much better because I wouldnt of seen you in a long time.
Done.
Now, How are you, apart from all this?
Do you have a job? Get a job, that'd get you income and it'd keep you busy, not with her.
OR straight up tell her that we spend alot of time together and i'd like it if I had more time to myself and with my friends, and so whenever I see you it'd be so much better because I wouldnt of seen you in a long time.
Done.
Now, How are you, apart from all this?
Just noticed that I forgot to mention a cardinal rule in these matters:
When you pay a prostitute, you pay them to LEAVE.
Think about that.
When you pay a prostitute, you pay them to LEAVE.
Think about that.
